It’s not always about us!

Have you ever been so low in your life, so downtrodden, in the deepest depression that you felt there was no break coming anytime soon? Have you ever been in such a place where hope is absent, help seemed impossible, or that such a despair was so routine you honestly believed sorrow itself is your destiny?

Have you ever been to prison? Sometimes these feelings are exactly what prisoners go through on a daily basis. Consequences for our actions can be harsh. Even if they are deserved, they can still be harsh. People can still feel remorse and suffering even if it is a just consequence. But sometimes, consequences are lodged against the innocent. Let us take Paul as an example of this.

One of the first churches on the European started was the church in Philippi. The church had sent Paul a gift while he was imprisoned in Rome. Paul was in prison, which by the way are nothing like the prisons we have today. Let us remember as we look at the behavior of Paul here that he is living in a dungeon, on dirt floors, in stench, and with little to no light. He had no friends around him, and was most likely being mocked by the Roman Guards. The book of Philippians is the letter that Paul wrote to the church in Philippi thanking them for that gift. And there are five basic themes to the book of Philippians. Humility, self-sacrifice, and Christian living are among those five. But there is a particular verse into particular themes that I read one night before bed. It is this topic has been on my mind ever since, and that is why I share it here.

Chapter 2 starting at first three we read, “2 Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. 5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus”

I would like to pay attention, for just a moment, to verse number four. This verse, for some reason, struck me to the point where I would read a couple more verses but I would go back and reread verse four. I did that several times. What does it mean? Here’s a man imprisoned for being a Christian, a follower of Christ, or as it was said in those days a member of “the way”, and his thank you letter is one filled with encouragement and joy. During a time in his life when no one would blame him for being despondent, or sad, or to not take the time to say thank you for the gift at all because of the situation that he finds himself in, Paul maintains his focus on two of the five attributes of this book and they are right Christian living and JOY!

The first eight words of verse four clearly indicate the instruction to pay attention to others. However, the word also indicates that there is a time to measure yourself. Most commentators agree that because God made each of us unique, we should take care to meet our own needs.

I like the way Charles Ellicott comments on verse four, “Yet by the word “also” we see that St. Paul does not, in the spirit of some forms of modern transcendentalism, denounce all self-consciousness and self-love, as in a bad sense “selfish.” For man is individual as well as social; he can subordinate “his own things” to “the things of others,” but cannot ignore them.”

We must remember that the Bible tells us that if we do not take care of ourselves and our home and our family inside of our home then we are worse than an infidel.

John Gill reminds us of this in his commentary on this verse. “Not but that a man should take care of his worldly affairs, and look well unto them, and provide things honest in the sight of all men, for himself and his family, otherwise he would be worse than an infidel;”

But as the case is in nearly everything we do, there is a line between what is righteous and reasonable, and what is excessive and sinful. And here Paul is telling us that, as they have looked in on him by way of messenger and gift, they should be looking in on each other. It’s not always about us! You cannot be a follower of Christ and still live a life that says Me! Me! Me! They should be mindful of the needs and the feelings of the members of their own church. This lesson transcends the walls of the church house to the brethren of the body of Christ. This verse does not intend to refer to just secular needs, but also the spiritual needs. The word “look” in this verse does not infer a light gaze. It’s meaning is not one of surface observance. Paul is not telling us to merely see the needs of others. It has a much deeper and intense meaning. It infers an attentiveness, one that causes observation and consideration. It infers that you are to “beware”. We are told many times throughout the Bible to “beware”. This infers that our eyes to be wide open, for us to be alert. When we are being told to “beware”, the usual reference is that we are to be on guard for the lion who walks to and fro seeking out whom he can devour. To have that understanding of the word look here in verse four, we should then take, with a great deal of seriousness, our Christian duty to beware of the physical and spiritual needs of our brethren in the body of Christ.

I came across the these two short stories that illustrate verse four. I will leave you here with these great examples of how we are to look onto the needs of others.

Sunday Magazine printed this,
Thomas Sampson was a working miner, and worked hard for his bread. The captain of the mine said to him on one occasion, “Thomas, I’ve got an easier berth for you, where there is little comparatively to do, and where you can earn more money. Will you accept it?” What do you think he said? “Captain, there’s our poor brother Tregony. He has a sick body, and he is not able to work as hard as I am. I fear his toil will shorten his useful life. Will you let him have the berth?” The captain, pleased with his generosity, sent for Tregony, and gave him the berth. Thomas was gratified, and added, “I can work a little longer yet.”

T.T. Shore tells this short story;
A German countryman went one day with his four sons to the neighbouring town to transact some business. While there, in the market place, he bought five peaches. One of these he kept for his wife, who was at home, and the others he gave to his boys. When they were sitting round the fire the next evening, he thought he would ask each of his sons what he had done with his peach. The eldest said he had eaten his, but had kept the stone to plant in the garden, in hopes that it would grow up and bear some peaches as good as the one he had so much enjoyed. The youngest boy confessed he had eaten his own peach and thrown the stone away, and after his return home had helped his mother to eat half of her peach! The second eldest boy told how he had picked up the stone which his little brother had thrown away, and cracked it, and eaten the kernel. “It was nice and sweet,” he added, “and I sold my own peach for so much money that I have enough to buy several peaches now with what I got for it.” The third son then had to tell his tale. The others had told all theirs at once with no hesitation and no shame, but this little lad blushed as he began his story: “I took my peach to a poor little friend who has been in bed for so long, and suffers so much pain. He refused to take it from me, so I put it on his bed and ran away.” His mother’s kisses, as she heard these words, were far sweeter on his young lips than any fruit.

If you stand in the mirror what will the reflection tell you about yourself, and what are you going to do about it? May the peace of God be abundantly heaped upon you and your house, straight from the cross to the Christian!