Month: September 2017

Release Your Grip on the Whip

The topic of our study is Forgiveness. One might think it a simple study, but I believe it is complex. First I wonder if we really understand what forgiveness is, biblically. I wonder if we meet the biblical thresh-hold of forgiveness. I wonder if we spend more time meeting the worldly definition of forgiveness. I don’t know, but I think a serious study of it is going to let us see for ourselves.

First let’s talk about some things that Forgiveness is not. It is NOT forgive and forget. I once heard a sermon by Dr. Voddie Baucham. He is one of my all-time favorite pastors to listen to. I never met him, but he has said in a number of his sermons that this idea of forgive and forget is a lie. He explained that the human brain is not designed to forget. So if the brain is forgetting it is malfunctioning. It has experienced some form of trauma, like Blunt force trauma or concussion, or disease like Alzheimer’s or dementia. It is unreasonable to expect the brain to forget a traumatic event when traumatic events are what burns a memory into the brain in the first place. Forgiveness is NOT an eraser. Forgiving does not erase the action. It does not say, “Okay, I forgive you so go ahead and go to sleep and when you wake up in the morning we will continue on like nothing happened.” NO!!! In most cases an action that has created some form of trauma has occurred. It happened!! There is no ignoring that. Because this is true, forgiveness is NOT absolution of accountability and immunity from consequence. I can forgive you, but there is still a consequence because the act really did happen. Biblically speaking, and we are going to look at some verses here soon, God is huge on accountability. If we are to be Christ like, how then can we say that there is no accountability? We cannot. There are consequences for our actions. Finally, forgiveness does not mean a relationship of any kind needs to continue. Now let’s be careful here. If you were violated, and you learned a lesson, and that lesson was that this is a dangerous person and for safety or health reasons and you are completely free of hate and animosity, it is appropriate to go our separate ways, no problem. But if you are violated, and you say you forgive and then not communicating with that person is out of anger or some form of punishment, then you have not truly forgiven. We will talk more about this, but for now let’s just say that you have to release your grip on the whip and hand that over to God as well if you are to truly forgive.

Now that we looked at some of the things forgiveness is not, let’s look at what it is. I really want to look at the biblical definition and compare it to what you think. In the bible forgiveness refers more to the act. When you forgive biblically, you are saying that you are overlooking an act. You are sending it away. The word forgive means we are overlooking the wrong, we are going to send the wrong away. But the other half of this is, “where are we sending it to?” To God!  There are many, and I mean many, verses that address forgiving others that you may be forgiven. But I love these verses in Colossians chapter 3 because it starts off by telling us a key point of forgiveness, and that is God’s wrath.

Colossians 3

6 For which things’ sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:

7 In the which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.

8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

9 Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;

10 And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:

11 Where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond nor free: but Christ is all, and in all.

12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

When we forgive we are recognizing that we are not in control, and God is. So we are going to send this away and put the act and the offender into the hands of God. We are taking everything out of our hands, and putting into the hands of God. Why would we want to do that? We want this for a couple reasons.

First, we want this because, as these verses indicate, we are to put off our wrath. Put it off to where, God’s hands. Our wrath is not perfect and not righteous. When someone hurts us, our wrath is more about the fact that we hurt than the actual act. This is why we can be okay with our response but someone else is like, ‘gee wiz, being a little harsh aren’t we?’ God’s wrath is perfectly just. We need to trust that, and defer to it. After all, His instruction to us is to be peaceful and leave the wrath up to Him.

Romans 12:

17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.

18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Secondly, we want this to happen because that’s what we want others to do to us. I don’t know about you, but I make mistakes. I am human and I admit that I have hurt people before, and as uncomfortable as this may sound, it is highly likely that I will hurt people again. I pray that they forgive me and send me and my offense to God for HIS deliberation. I pray for that because I know God is just. I know that God can see into my mind (most people use the word ‘heart’ a lot but I don’t. I think it confuses people. The heart is just a muscle that pumps blood to all parts of the body. Big job, important organ. But the truth is the BRAIN is the biblical heart. It is where thoughts, all the worldly wicked thoughts of man come from. It is the hub of emotions. It is also where the transformation takes place because repentance is to have a change of MIND on sin. Another deep lesson for another day.). He knows that while I did offend, I did not do it in malice and that I do genuinely seek forgiveness, and He knows that I am a forgiving person. So I want to be judged by the judge of all judges. If I want to be forgiven, then I must forgive. People don’t know the mind of man, but God does.  There are many verses about forgiving others if you want to be forgiven. I will provide just a few.

Ephesians 4:32

32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Matthew 6:15

15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 18:33-35

33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?

34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.

35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not everyone his brother their trespasses.

Now, I am going to step on some toes. How much more has been done to us than what this world did to Christ? I have thought that I was so violated that I was not only justified to not forgive, but to hate the offender. I was wrong. I hope that when you think of all that Jesus went through, not only in his final hours but during his years as a minister as well, you will see that your violation is small in comparison. Jesus was continuously mocked and spit on, and challenged. The man had no home; he was homeless. The savior slept on the ground and the rock was his pillow. And then yes, in the final hours he was so badly beaten and scourged that he was hardly recognizable. While on the cross, a torturous death by the way, he had a spear thrusted into his side just to see if he was still alive. And as if that was not enough, God placed the weight of all the sin in the world, all the sin that has been-is-and was yet to come, onto the body of Christ that we shall receive forgiveness. And in the course of all of this, Jesus’ prayer was that God the father forgive us because we have no clue what we were doing. This is the picture of perfect forgiveness. How much more can be done to a human being? And Christ took all the violations and put them into the hands of the father. Jesus said here, “I forgive them; I give up my right to have earthly and personal vengeance on these people. I turn them over to you. And if they can believe in you, I advocate on their behalf that you forgive them their violations against you and that you let them come home a redeemed child.”

1 Peter 2:19-21

19 For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully.

20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.

21 For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:

Now this is important, when we are violated and we say out loud that we just cannot forgive, what we are really saying is, “I am going through more than what Christ went through, and that because this wrong is at a magnitude never seen before, God’s wrath will not be good enough. This offender must feel my wrath. This person must not have a path to redemption; there is no forgiveness for this person. I want you to forgive me, but this person, NO FORGIVENESS! I am sorry God, but I don’t trust you to handle this to my satisfaction. I want to make sure there are no mistakes here, and that this person suffers as I have suffered and then some more. I want them to feel my pain because the pain of hell is insufficient. It’s not enough.” Now you may think that I am going a little too far with this, but I challenge you to think about it. Have you ever made a mistake, handled it maturely and begged for forgiveness and while forgiven still had to suffer consequences and maybe even long term where you wondered when will I ever be done paying for this mistake? I have and because I have I can believe very easily that God’s wrath is wholly sufficient.

In closing, forgiveness is NOT a free pass. Even the saints will meet with the LORD to discuss obedience. Remember, “EVERY KNEE WILL BOW” It only seems like bad people get away with everything. Imagine Hell, filled with those ‘bad people’. Do you still think they got away with something? This earth is not our home. It is evil and wicked. This world is not fair, and welcoming. It is not our job to give up when we get knocked down. It is our job to continue to spread the gospel, to continue to let the light of Christ shine in spite of being violated. When you don’t do that, you are suffering from idolatry. Your woes are too great to put God first, which means you must come first, right? RIGHT! Think of it this way, while you are going on about the violation, the violator is enjoying life. Sometimes forgiveness frees you from the prisons of emotions. Let’s take full advantage of God. Cast upon Him your violators and their behaviors. Forgive so you can receive forgiveness. Forgive so you can be free from the bondage of bad memories and painful emotions.

If you stand in the mirror what will the reflection tell you about yourself, and what are you going to do about it? May the peace of God be abundantly heaped upon you and your house, straight from the cross to the Christian!

Inch by Inch, Little by Little

Psalm 1 

1Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

2 But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

4 The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.

5 Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.

6 For the Lord knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.

The first Psalm is only believed to be written by King David. It is really not known for sure, so often it is captioned authored by “Anonymous”. It describes the WAYS of the faithful, as compared to the WAYS of the faithless.

It is amazing how, while in prayer over a particular issue in life, God will send us to a spot in His word that will bring to us some understanding. This is what happened to me. I am struggling with many things, but a couple are at the top of my prayer list. I often find myself asking God, “am I right on this?”, “Am I speaking your will or my own?”, “Am I pleasing you, or am I not understanding what I am reading or have read?” I was led to this Psalm, which is certainly Holy Spirit led because rarely do I go this far back for support. I usually look for the red letters. But nevertheless, here we are.

“Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of the sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful”. In case you are not catching the theme I am searching for here, I am looking at the participation of Godly people in the world of the ungodly. When I say that a Godly person has no business interacting with the world, my Godly friends look at me like I am insane. How can we not interact? Easy!!! Understand that we are to witness and testify of God’s Gospel. That is what a Christian is called to do the moment we take the yoke of Christ upon us. We are instructed to do so. We are also told that the moment we are saved, the moment we accept Christ into our hearts, we are set aside. We are set aside for a greater purpose, the purpose of spreading the gospel. Because this is true, we can no longer keep doing to things that we used to. For before we served satan, and now we serve God. The world is the secular atmosphere where evil is the behavior of the day. In God’s eyes, and in His word, even those who do good deeds all day long and do not hurt a flea are ungodly and wicked if the good deeds are not spirit led and all done for the glory of God. So in other words, apart from God, there is not one of us that are good, not a single one of us. Therein lies the difference. Everything a Christian does is supposed to glorify the Father. The world glorifies itself. Only a person full of self and worshipping their own self can think that they alone have the sovereign authority to decide what is morally right and wrong.  Christians are no longer in that atmosphere.

Albert Barnes comments on the word walk- “Whose character is that he does not walk in the manner specified. Prof. Alexander renders this, “Who has not walked.” But it implies more than this; it refers to more than the past. It is the characteristic of the man, always and habitually, that he does not thus walk; it has not only been true in the past, but it is true in the present, and will be true in the future. It is that which distinguishes the man. The word “walk” is often used in the Scriptures to denote a way of life or conduct – since life is represented as a journey, and man as a traveler.”

When I talk like this, some go right to JUSTIFYING their own actions by saying, “Jesus spent time with the sinners”. Of course He did. He was a preacher. He sat with them and ate with them, and defied all Jewish law, man’s law, that said that the righteous should shun the “unclean” and all non-Jews, commonly referred to as gentiles. Jesus was a champion of civil rights before it was called civil rights, mainly because membership in the club of the saved has nothing to do with ethnicity, gender, handicap, and so on, and everything to do with Faith and Obedience. But Jesus did not live in that world, meaning He did not stay there. Every second of every day, Jesus was about His Father’s business. After talking about sin and hell with the sinners, because he more than anyone else in the bible spoke about Hell and wanted to tell the sinner why it was important to be redeemed (what we commonly refer to as the “spreading the GOSPEL”), he would leave. He usually went off to pray. Jesus was always in communion with the Father. He was always talking about how much the Father loved His children and wanted them to have faith and to obey the scriptures and to love one another. Jesus NEVER stood in the WAY of the sinners, He never SAT with the scornful, Jesus never said that disobedience was good or even non-consequential, and Jesus never said that loving someone meant that you did not have to share the gospel with them or correct them. In fact, Jesus says the Father corrects those He loves. Standing in the WAY means to do what they do, to look and act like they act, to participate in the sinful WAYS. In fact, did you know that before the word Christian was used in a positive manner to describe a follower of Christ it was used as a derogatory word to insult a follower? Before the word Christian, a person following Christ was said to be “in the WAY” of Christ. You did what he did, looked like he looked and so on. The world is the “council of the ungodly.” “Sitteth in the seat” refers to the same thing, but with a great deal more determination. We have now taken root, we have gotten comfortable. We are them. How will we know if we are in the WAY or sitting in the SEAT? If our non-saved friends don’t see us any differently than they see their unsaved friends, we are doing something wrong. If we say that we want to be friends with the unsaved because we have a lot in common with them, we are doing something wrong. The unsaved people of the world should be looking at us and either thinking that we are the strangest person they ever met, or examining us because what they see in us is different and interesting. But if we spent an abundance of quality time with the unsaved, if we invite unsaved people to be the make-up of our inner circle, and there are no conversations about the differences between us, we are doing something wrong. It is important to me to stress the importance of this because contrary thinking leads us one step at a time in the wrong direction. Does one act alone cause grave concern, maybe not? Does the totality of years of bad choices cause grave concern, absolutely yes! I usually refer to this by saying, “inch by inch” or “one small step at a time”. In researching this, I see that Spurgeon referred to it as “little by little.

Charles Spurgeon remarks, “The sum of the whole is, that the servants of God must endeavor utterly to abhor the life of ungodly men. But as it is the policy of Satan to insinuate his deceits, in a very crafty way, the prophet, in order that none may be insensibly deceived, shows how by little and little men are ordinarily induced to turn aside from the right path. They do not, at the first step, advance so far as a proud contempt of God but having once begun to give ear to evil counsel, Satan leads them, step by step, farther astray, till they rush headlong into open transgression. The prophet, therefore, begins with counsel, by which term I understand the wickedness which does not as yet show itself openly. Then he speaks of the way, which is to be understood of the customary mode or manner of living. And he places at the top of the climax the seat, by which metaphorical expression he designates the obduracy produced by the habit of a sinful life. In the same way, also, ought the three phrases, to walk, to stand, and to sit, to be understood. When a person willingly walks after the gratification of his corrupt lusts, the practice of sinning so infatuates him, that, forgetful of himself, he grows hardened in wickedness; and this the prophet terms standing in the way of sinners.”

 

Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. (side note- look at the last four words. For those of you who think Christians should “live and let live”, or “to each is their own” or wait until you have your act together before speaking, notice the COMMAND of these four words. To reprove, elénchō –  ἐλέγχω, means to rebuke, expose, bring to the light. It is defined in Ephesians 5:13- But all things that are reproved (same word elénchō –  ἐλέγχω) are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.)

Even for those in the WAYS of Christ, we are commanded to separate ourselves. The book of 2 Thessalonians is a letter to the church of Thessalonica. It tells them of things that have to happen before Christ returns. It was needed because people started to WALK in the WAYS of Christ differently, and some became idle. So even in the church we are told to separate ourselves from those who are not following the WAY of Christ (again, not to not witness or testify, but not to socialize or abide- which is another great word which means to hang out, to set up residence).

2 Thessalonians 3:6 Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us.

 

2 Corinthians 6

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.

18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

Often we look at these verses and consider it to refer to marriage only. I would challenge you to see that the principle here expands out to all relationships a believer has. This principle, this ruler, should be applied to our marriages, to our selection of friends to the decisions we make about where we go and what we do.

The books of Acts, Romans, 2 John, and more, state something about separating yourself from the secular world, the sinful WAYS and scornful SEATS, ran by the prince of darkness. It is getting increasingly difficult to teach this principle because we live in a sinful world where satan spreads the lies that if you keep yourself separate you are hateful, you think you’re better than others, you are a racist (a word which is incorrectly used since there is only one race to begin with), or are labelled guilty of any one or combination of more than one of the numerous –isms and –phobes. We must stand on these principles! It is not okay for us to joyfully, willingly, knowingly, and purposefully, participate in the world. There is a difference between making a mistake to which you seek God’s correction and forgiveness, and actually living in the behavior thinking it is okay. Huge difference!!

In closing, I will quote Albert Barnes, again, in summation, “So also it is in regard to the persons with whom they associate. They are, first, irreligious men in general; then, those who have so far advanced in depravity as to disregard known duty, and to violate known obligations; and then, those who become confirmed in infidelity, and who openly mock at virtue, and scoff at the claims of religion. It is unnecessary to say that, in both these respects, this is an accurate description of what actually occurs in the world. He who casually and accidentally walks with the wicked, listening to their counsel, will soon learn to place himself in their way, and to wait for them, desiring their society, and will ultimately be likely to be feared identified with open scoffers; and he who indulges in one form of depravity, or in the neglect of religion in any way, will, unless restrained and converted, be likely to run through every grade of wickedness, until he becomes a confirmed scoffer at all religion. The sentiment in this verse is, that the man who is truly blessed is a man who does none of these things.”

If you stand in the mirror what will the reflection tell you about yourself, and what are you going to do about it? May the peace of God be abundantly heaped upon you and your house, straight from the cross to the Christian!

Be Unspotted of the World

James 1

22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.

23 For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:

24 For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.

25 But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.

26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.

27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world

I post this because I see many hearers of the word and few doers. In fact, if you even try, just a little bit, to be a doer in this world you are labeled as an -ist, or a -phobe, or declared guilty of some form of -ism, and if none of these apply then you’re crazy, hateful, abusive, and so on.

I wish we would read the word of God with the intent to be doers no matter what the world says. I wish we would read God’s word, God’s written plan for our lives with the intent to follow it and not the intent to make God’s word fit into our plan. I wish we would read and study the God’s sovereign word with the intent to become more firm and fervent, and bold in our faith, not to try and use his own word against himself or to try and disprove his word. That has not worked ever since the word was penned yet we still try. I wish we would all stop thinking so highly of ourselves and realize the futility in trying to do it our own way.

Not a single one of us is so great as to be able to claim a greater sovereignty than God. Be hearers and then be doers of GOD’S WORD, NOT YOUR OWN AND BE UNSPOTTED OF THE WORLD!

No Mercy

James 2
10 For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.
 
11 For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor of the law.
 
12 So speak ye, and so do, as they that shall be judged by the law of liberty.
 
13 For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.
 
14 What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?
 
15 If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food,
 
16 And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?
 
17 Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
 
God can do anything. He is sovereign. But make no mistake, this relationship with God is reciprocal. That means that although God can do everything, he wants you to take responsibility and work too. We pray for healing, and do not go to a doctor, we pray for financial blessings but do not work, we pray for unsaved relatives to get saved and do not talk to them about sin and death brought on by sin, we pray for peace and unleash anger on the world, we pray to understand and yet we seek only to be understood, we pray for anything and do not position ourselves in any like manner to receive the blessing. We show great faith in constantly praying, believing that God hears us, and yet that faith is not producing the work God expects from us. Remember, God created the perfect world, he made it so there was no death. Satan chose to rebel, and Adam and Eve chose to follow.
We, mankind, brought sin and death into the world. If you ask yourself why does this happen or does not happen, it is because that perfect union with God was broken. We now live in a time where we must start with faith. THe belief that God is who and what he says he is. Then we have to allow ourselves to be servants to him. And if there is any of you who believe that a servant does not work, then please re-read the bible. Jesus came first as a servant. He showed us what the work of the spirit. Yes, he showed loved. But he also told people to stop sinning. He saved the harlot, and then told her to sin no more. He broke bread with those whom the law said he should not. But during the bread breaking he was preaching about the will of the father.
Jesus spoke more about hell and the consequences of sin than any other man in the bible. That is the work of the spirit. We are commanded to follow him, to do HIS will. Be ye doers of the word, not just hearers!! Faith without work is dead. Can you hear that brethren. If you say you have faith, and do not see clearly the work before you, then your faith is dead. Translated, you are not a follower of Christ if you do not do it the way he says do it. You do not have the authority to change HIS plan. There is only one way to get this done. HIS WAY!!! For he will have judgment without mercy. Oh please hear that, no mercy. Yes, the Jesus that loves is saying that for the disobedient he will have no mercy. Mercy is that gift we are all counting on to be saved. To have faith and no works is to forego that mercy. Jesus has made it clear.